One of my highschool friends was a hermaphrodite who chose female early on with no interference from her parents. When she became an adult she finished the process surgically.
She was always reasonably well adjusted because no one interfered with the direction she chose. She was just one of the hometown crowd to us.
I’d never actually met anyone who was born a hermaphrodite until the 1980’s-when I was working as a workers comp case manager, I had a male client who had born so-he was in his mid-30’s, married and had a naturally-created child with his wife.
Since he had all the necessary male parts, internally and externally, and not a complete set of female ones, he showed a natural inclination to maleness, and had gender assignment surgery as a teen, when testosterone production confirmed what testing had already shown.
He told me about that part of his life in a very open manner, and he was completely comfortable with it, rather then treating it as a dark secret, or with any drama.
There are several famous/well known people who are rumored to have been born hermaphrodites, and been assigned the appropriate gender surgically...