One factor not mentioned in adoption is the birth father. He has constitutional rights. A “crisis” pregnancy may involve a horrible, sometimes fear based relationship with the father or no relationship at all. In the process of placing the baby for adoption, the mother may fear that he will step in and get custody.
It really HAS worked well for all time.
(various and sundry reports and statistics in 3 .. 2 .. 1 ..... )
(( both God and I shall ignore aforementioned and expected stats .. ))
How she decides will impact her and her baby and in many cases it will affect the man who fathered the child as well. Too often, he is left out of the decision process, and just as often the young woman will make her decision without fully exploring the option of adoption.
This article leaves out the impact on the family of the mother and the father.
My step daughter who lives with me was a teen mother. She was sixteen when she had her son. She decided to have and the keep baby. In my estimation this was a purely selfish decision. I tried to pursued her to give up the child but was fought by my wife in the matter.
She of course has no job at the time and no money. Consequently the financial burden of the child fell on my wife and me.
In the time to follow the birth my step daughter has gradually spent less and less time with her son. He spends about 4 days a week with his father who farms out most of the care of the boy to his aunt who is a substance abuser. The other three days she has the boy she dumps him on her mother and I.
The boy is three and ½ years old and is not potty trained. He gets very little encouragement in that department when he is at his father’s. He typically show’s up at our house with a sore bottom.
My step daughter is the most self centered person I have ever met and should never have been a mother. I knew from the time I was told she was pregnant that things would turn out as they have.
As I see the future it will be my wife and I (the grand parents) raising this boy. This is a common trend today that the article ignores.
As to adoption, I’d think twice about adopting if I knew the law was going to leave the birth mother (and quite likely the biological father) some residual “rights” to the child.
Not to mention social services and the adoption agency. These days it’s hard to adopt a puppy, never mind a baby, and it’s often so conditional you can never be confident of your status or your rights.
The law is making a frankenstein monster of the traditional family, and it isn’t just the law legalizing abortion.
Whatever happened to, "Marry the father?" Crazy as it sounds, I've known a lot of good marriages and good families that began with a missed period.
Don't young men have it in them to "man-up" and become husbands and fathers anymore?
