I've got news for Susan Meader Tobias. Based upon divorce rates, I'd say the above description can be applied to many marriages, regardless of how screwed up the particular individual is with respect to sexual orientation.
(from her editorial)
Hmm. Explain Robert Mapplethorpe who repeatedly shagged Patti Smith for years even after he'd started experimenting with men and S&M.
Plenty of supposedly "gay" men are obsessed with women. Perhaps Andy Warhol turned queer because of predators in the art scene and horndogs who worked hard (including Dylan) to get Edie Sedgwick away from him. He lost his virginity somewhat "late" in life according to the documentary about him.
The homosexuals who seem to have an aversion to vaginas appear to have "mother" issues.
Plenty of homosexual men running around with drag queens DRESSED as women, sometimes even with breasts surgically affixed. If you don't like the equipment and the trappings, it seems far fetched to believe that they were "born" looking for "crossdressers" and "surgical post-op transexuals".