I’ve known a few, so I’ll throw in my two cents.
Those who tend toward large do not have a very feminine self-image and most were always built sort of chunky. They’re attracted to femininity but are not themselves. They don’t give a hoot about makeup and are only slightly more comfortable in a dress and heels than the average guy would be, which is to say not very. Clothes, they like practical, durable stuff.
Most like to drink and party, but that’s something done largely at home or at the home of friends. Most love to eat, so their home parties usually involve firing up a grill.
Not all of them hate guys but a fair number do. The pretty ones that are feminine as a group usually aren’t entirely lesbian though they’ll typically claim to be in the presence of lesbians. Even some of the less feminine ones are quite capable of being attracted to a male, but figure there’s no point in pursuing it.
Throw an even halfway decent looking guy who’s not gay and unattached into the mix at a mostly lesbian gathering, and it may get a little ugly. If they’re very drunk it will get ugly, in one way or another. A whole lot of internal conflict and outwardly conflicted behavior comes to the fore.
Been there, done that, back in my more libertarian days.
From “Chasing Amy”
Banky Edwards: Alright, now see this? This is a four-way road, okay? And dead in the center is a crisp, new, hundred dollar bill. Now, at the end of each of these streets are four people, okay? You following?
Holden: Yeah.
Banky Edwards: Good. Over here, we have a male-affectionate, easy to get along with, non-political agenda lesbian. Down here, we have a man-hating, angry as ...., agenda of rage, bitter dyke. Over here, we got Santa Claus, and up here the Easter Bunny. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first?
Holden: What is this supposed to prove?
Banky Edwards: No, I’m serious. This is a serious exercise. It’s like an SAT question. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first? The male-friendly lesbian, the man-hating dyke, Santa Claus, or the Easter bunny?
Holden: The man-hating dyke.
Banky Edwards: Good. Why?
Holden: I don’t know.
Banky Edwards: [shouting] Because the other three are figments of your ........ imagination!
You hit the nail on da head.