My eldest son has gone to the "dark side" and I have little to say to him these days. In addition to his expression of himself, he became and is the lead in their local UNION! Below is the pic he uses for public exposure (FaceBook, Link'n, et al)...
Last year, his wife committed suicide, and he is left with two small children. He had gone to church on a Sunday evening with the kids, came home and found her in the bath tub, gun in hand, shot herself in the gut.
I can't help but feel his choice of profession (and how he has changed) had something to do with it... but who knows! I just know he is not the same as the son I raised!!!
Very sorry for you.