Not holding parents responsible for this kind of violence is a big part of the problem. A form of dereliction perhaps by design to further break down the role of the family.
I’m still waiting for a public comment by the male individual that spawned Adam Lanza — a.k.a. “his father”.
My son was getting picked on (verbally) by a kid in school. He told us, we discreetly told the teacher. She kept an eye out and the next time the bully said something to my son she called him on it. She brought the parents in for a meeting. The dad told her “Hey - I'm at work - my wife takes care of that stuff.”
The teacher replied “No - you're the father - act like one. And if you don't want to meet - your son is kicked out of school”. (A public school teacher!!) The kid and my son since became friends.
My daughter had another way of handling the class bully in 6th grade. Stabbed him in the arm with a pencil - even drew blood. He went screaming like a girl to the nurse's office with a pencil sticking out of his arm.
Thank goodness my daughter received a light reprimand from the Principal. The mom of the boy understood all too well. The boy is now home-schooled and doing VERY well with both his grades and his behavior.