Ever been through "family" aka divorce court as the modern day pariah known as a white, western male? If you did you would not come to such a conclusion. It's no wonder white, western males refuse to "settle down" and have offspring, knowing very well that the courts can legally take their wallet (no self support reserve; Title IV-D prop up) and wink at the mothers estranging the children from them.
I have and I know.
What I said is true, regardless. At the end of the day, numbers matter. Nature is indifferent, and doesn’t care a whit about why someone or something fails, especially when it comes to self-preservation. One party’s loss, willfully chosen or fatefully bestowed, is another’s gain.
There was no abuse of any kind and I wound up having to pay 1/2 her legal bills. The amount is greater then 1/2 of my pretax yearly salary. It will take me the better part of a decade to pay off to say nothing of the child support.
I get 3 hours a week with my son. This week she accused me of drinking before hand so I had to cut short the two hour visit by 90 minutes. I had nothing to drink whatsoever. This was after she canceled the hour long weekday visit because she was unwilling to adjust the schedule. (We both had work commitments, hers was on the court mandated day and mine was on the alternate.)
I'm not a perfect man but I've worked with kids my entire adult life and that meant absolutely nothing to the court. I mentored at risk kids for 13 years and that meant absolutely nothing to the court. I passed an FBI background check to get hired at my current job and that meant nothing to the court. Her word is Gospel while I have to prove everything to the court's satisfaction with copious amounts of documentation.
During a court mandated observation I picked up my crying son and gently bounced him in my arms to calm him. The report said I picked him up and shook him.
There is nothing fair, rational or just about the court system if you are a man.