This in literally not rocket science, countless learned studies have examined the subject. My personal favorite accessible to everyone is Sex on the Brain, By Deborah Bloom. I am sure there are equivalents in every civilized country and language.
War should never be civilized, or constrained by 'Geneva Conventions,' which typically, one side or the other ignores totally, while the other chooses the "high ground" and disappears from the face of the earth. Logical? No. Rational? no. Eternal? Yes.
As any divorced man in the US knows by now, women are just too damn mean for civilized combat!