Very sorry to hear of your trials. I know this may be hard, but this exactly what Medicaid is supposed to be for. Please look into it.
That’s the safety net we all agree on rather than the life-long entitlement.
His family probably doesn’t quite qualify for Medicaid just like ours doesn’t. Every year or so the state of Washington sends us a letter saying we are being evaluated for transfer into Medicaid. But then about three months later we get another letter saying we don’t qualify due to retirement assets (which aren’t that much). Recently they raised the qualifying ceiling but still doesn’t quite cut it.