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“No caring person would want to bring a child into the world today.

Not fair to the child.”

Statements like that are not helpful. They also put you in the “nones” category.

Suppose your parents had said that a few decades ago. No BenLurkin on Free Republic! Our world is not going to get better if the faithful patriots aren’t going to procreate.

There are many reason people of faith have more kids.

First, more of us marry (we don’t believe in fornication).

Second, we abort less. Theoretically not at all, but I have known of a handful of “Christians” who have under duress, to cover sin, aborted. But the rate is at least so much lower.

Third, we hopefully don’t use abortifacient birth control.

Fourth, many think that birth control of any kind is a sin.

Fifth, we are commanded to be fruitful and multiply. While I don’t think that means have all the kids you can possibly have heedless of your means, it is a general pro-child attitude.

Sixth, in our circles we are generally encouraged and supported in our child rearing, not disdained and marginalized.

Seventh, I think having and rearing good kids is insanely exhausting and only done if you have altruistic, other-centered tendencies. While Christians don’t have a patent on that, and some of us are pretty messed up, overall I do believe that mindset and attitude is predominant.

Lastly, we have sincere hope for the future.

"No caring person would want to bring a child into the world today. Not fair to the child. "

Not a reflection on you of course, but this strikes me as cowardice disguising itself as compassion. Husbands and wives have settled down to have kids amidst troubles and insecurities much, much worse than almost anything on earth at present.

You can look at dramatic examples like people still marrying and raising families during the Fall of Rome, the Barbarian Invasions, Conquista of Mesoamerica, World Wars, Black Death.

You can see it, perhaps less dramatically, in most family trees. Mine, for instance:

My great-great grandparents on the paternal side had 7 kids, on the maternal side 6.
Great grands, 5 and 5.
Grands, 4 and 3.
My parents had 2 kids. My husband's parents had 4.
My husband and I have 1 homegrown and 1 adopted.
Our young adult sons have 0 and 0 --- at an age where our grandparents already had their families started.

Sure looks like The Decline of the West.

And I can say that a lot of those more distant people on the family tree, were having their kids amidst wars, economic downturns, displacements, emigration, Depression.

Compared to them, we --- some of us --- just lacked what? Maybe a clear vision of how to pursue marriage and family, and with whom. Maybe the maturity, maybe the capacity to make long-term plans and stop indulging our impulses. Maybe faith, hope, and love.

From what I can see, it's the people with faith, hope, and love who are still having families, God bless them. And they live in the same "world today" that we do.