Tell me about it. My daughter is a single mom, an intelligent, beautiful, wonderful girl, who made the mistake of trusting a poster boy for the modern disfunctional male. It was hard enough to absorb the shock of the shattered dreams of fairy tales and princesses, but we thought at least that afterward there would be some good guy come along, with a big heart and the cleverness to see what a good life partner she would make. And we are still waiting. Where are all the decent young men that would have swarmed around her in my generation?
Sometimes I think its just Illinois. Do you thnk it would be any better in Texas? North Dakota? Guam? We do sometimes think of moving for the kids’ sake. But ultimately we are confident God can help us wherever we are. But the waiting is hard.
Sadly, the kids today, especially the guys, don’t want to get married and have a family...too much work. Even the girls only want t.heir I Phones and other techie stuff. I don’t even know any teenagers that DATE!!!! It’s NOT a good sign for our country.
Sadly, the kids today, especially the guys, don’t want to get married and have a family...too much work. Even the girls only want t.heir I Phones and other techie stuff. I don’t even know any teenagers that DATE!!!! It’s NOT a good sign for our country.
Sounds like your daughter needs to find herself a good old country boy.
“Where are all the decent young men that would have swarmed around her in my generation?”
Keep in mind that you did ask.
For millions of us guys, we see a country where women basically own men, if they choose, when it comes to marriage, and we don’t like it. We’ve seen our friends get burned, everyone of us, and we take the steps needed to minimize the chance of us getting burned. In some case, we simply refuse to marry, or not have kids (to the extent we can), knowing that our ‘women’ will stay with us anyway, out of their own insecurity and because they always think they can change us.
In other cases, we marry immigrants or foreigners, where the value system has not been trashed like it has here. That was my answer (and, obviously, the same for millions of others). For example my wife has a boatload of sisters, all married, none ever divorced, for decades now. The first one to jump ship is the outcast. In the American system, that doesn’t happen - the first thing a woman hears from her friends and family if she has a little spat with hubby is “hire a lawyer and clean him out”.
Obviously I’m generalizing, but my point is that your daughter pays the price of American feminism. I tell my kids, at least the boys, to never marry an American-born girl - it’s just too risky, especially given our educational system and our colleges. The divorce rate for men married to immigrants is less than half of that for men married to Americans (I think a lot less), so it’s simply a probability game now. Why risk a crappy adulthood, when there are such easy steps to avoid it?