You are generalizing. Not all people think this way. Most couples still wait for marriage to have kids.
A relationship isn’t really committed if you haven’t committed in a more meaningful way than saying “I love you”. Marriage is a covenant with God where the man and woman commit to each other and commit to raising any children which may result from their conjugal union.
A couple in my hometown have lived together for 35+ years, 4 kids. He is a contractor by trade and has practically rebuilt the church they attend for no payment and his wife is the lightning rod in the church on various meetings and getting things done. Do you really think God looks at them less over another married Christian couple who just attend church but don't do much?
Face it, tomorrow your GF could tell you she is pregnant, what then? Would you marry her?
She can't have children but if it did happen I would.
If so, why haven’t you already? If not, why are you sticking around?
It's complicated. I am 27 and she is 45(divorced). Not what you think...We were best friends for a very long time(lived next door to each other). We are both gym/fitness freaks and we drove to the gym every day to work out and then came home to cook(another shared interest) and shared dinners most evenings. We also did many activities together-movies/running events and even going to the store because we just clicked and being next door to each other it was conveinent. Truly became very best friends over a long period of time..and nothing sexual although we both started falling in love with each other but held off for the longest time-we were both unsure and scared of ruining our great friendship. It was a big leap but one night we became lovers that is the least crudest way I can say it (and she initiated the sex)..and here we are 3 years later. Never thought I would be in this type of relationship but it happened. TBH we are still struggling with the age issue but we do love each other very much. 95% of the people we know are happy for us and many have said they are envious of out great friendship and love.
Premarital sex is simply serial polygamy with women who you haven’t fully committed to.
Maybe promiscuous sex but premarital sex in a loving, committed relationship where both parties love each other well no. Most people in these relationships would never believe in cheating etc and are 100% committed to their partners...they just have not become married yet.
“Do you really think God looks at them less over another married Christian couple who just attend church but don’t do much?”
Poor comparison. Some churches are completely devoid of the Holy Spirit and Salvation is through Faith, not works.