[thecodont]

On another site I post on, a similar thread was made and one of the women posters mentioned while she was not a virgin, (she had a couple previous relationships), her husband was and she decided to remain abstinent in this relationship until marriage because that is what her husband wanted(religious reasons). Well after 3 years of marriage she finally divorced him..cited the lack of no real passion from him.."mechanical sex' on his part, just no spark.. just nothing there. She regretted not knowing him before marriage on a more personal level and she did everything in her power to make it work. Of course not all no sex before marriage relationships are like this but how many are. Life is too short to go through life in a unhappy marriage or find yourself in a unaffectionate marriage.

The problem here wasn't the husband's pre-marital abstinence, it was his wife's lack of it (she'd had previous non-marital relationships which included sex). She'd brought all of that previous non-marital sexual experience into the marriage bed with her and it became a wedge in their relationship. It put her abstinent husband at a disadvantage. To her, sex was about technique and not about a relationship.

[trailhkr1]

The problem here wasn't the husband's pre-marital abstinence, it was his wife's lack of it (she'd had previous non-marital relationships which included sex). She'd brought all of that previous non-marital sexual experience into the marriage bed with her and it became a wedge in their relationship. It put her abstinent husband at a disadvantage. To her, sex was about technique and not about a relationship.

I worded my thoughts wrong or was not clear. She did not leave him over his technique(which can be approved upon) but from what I remember he was basically a cold fish/frigid..whatever you want to call it.