Skip to comments.Waiting till the wedding night – getting married the right way
Posted on 09/15/2012 12:00:12 PM PDT by STARWISE
As anyone whos read my abstinence column here at Fox News Opinion could guess, my wedding is something that Ive looked forward to for quite some time. After having tied the knot at the end of August, I can now say beyond all shadow of a doubt, that it was everything Id hoped and prayed that it would be since childhood. (Id also prayed to be bitten by a radioactive spider and develop sticky hands, but I was an idiot.)
Let me preface this column by saying this: my wife (I have to get used to saying that) and I not only waited sexually in every way (no, we didnt pull the Bill Clinton and technically avoid sex sex,) but we didnt shack up as live-ins and most importantly, we courted each other in a way that was consistent with our publicly professed values.
We did it right.
Feeling judged? I couldnt care less. You know why? Because my wife and I were judged all throughout our relationship. People laughed, scoffed and poked fun at the young, celibate, naive Christian couple.
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Good for you
Not for everyone though
Good for him. With a sound foundation, like this, they stand a good chance of being one of those couples that will have been married 50 years.
What a beautiful couple, beautiful wedding picture, and beautiful tribute! May they live happily ever after.
Well said...God bless them and all who chose to do the right thing.
It is truly wonderful that he chose to save himself for marriage. I would now encourage him to cultivate his relationship with the Lord in such a way that it leads to love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Nice story SW..
I pray the same for my three daughters...
and I pray for men that think like I do about these things.
Yeah, it is.
Well, at least we've had the past quarter century to make up for lost time.
50 year anniversary today and believe me, it had nothing to do with what we did or did not do before our wedding.
Staying celibate until marriage is only impossible for the children of liberals and non Christians. In almost all cases, you will find that the children of conservatives and Christians remain virgins until they are marries.
That probably sounds pretty hokey today, but I would be willing to bet they had a long, happy marriage.
AMEN & AMEN!
“Let everything that hath breath praise the LORD; Praise ye the LORD.” (Psalm 150:6)
“Righteousness exalteth a nation: but sin is a reproach to any people.” (Proverbs 14:34)
Our kids also decided that saving it for marriage was the best way to go. We have a gorgeous little grandson with two loving parents and a granddaughter on the way who enjoys the same advantage.
I've never had sex.
Even through 137 marriages.
I cannot. I have the same genital definition as GI Joe.
Meanwhile Sandra Fluke is crying because she can’t afford Starbucks lattes and a dozen box of condoms. :P
Somehow I knew who wrote this post. Had to look to be sure though.
Pfallderall ! ;)
God seemed to think it should be for everyone.
Back then. Before I got married (And that was almost 32 years ago at age 31). I did not care. I am glad I matured. I have had a wonderful marriage and raised 3 great boys But I do not regret the wild oats of my youth...it was an education.
Congrats to Mr and Mrs. Crowder!
I as a lapsed catholic who went through 10 years of catholic parochial school, know the rules as set down in a Christian bible. My thoughts on the subject are my own and I feel comfortable with them.
People forget than God invented sex, not us, and to go against His guidance on it causes the kind of trouble we are in
12 yrs Dominicannuns.
And as soon they get divorced or bored with each other those moral feelings will go away and they’ll be screwing someone else.
All due respect, can’t understand when people think it’s necessary to have information.
I found out about abortion as a 12 year old. THe three other 12 yr olds with me and I all said:
Wow, that’s a problem, mothers killing their babies.
How do they do that.
Well some people say they suck the baby out with a vaccuum that has blades attached to it, but they also could inject a chemical that doesn’t hurt the mother.
This is is not good. We’re in for trouble.
Many yrs and medical school later that view has not changed.
It doesn’t take information, just the common sense of a 12 year old.
Ask one and see.
Yes, it is sad that it is unique in these last days.
They are believing what God says in His Word in Hebrews 13:4:
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
Thank the Lord that forgiveness is offered at the cross of Christ for those who come repenting of this (and all) sins and believing in Him.
I did not forgot what I learned about what God did. I take a more pragmatic view of things.
8 years Dominican sister
2 years Marist brothers
Then we moved from NYC to the burbs
But I learned all the seedy stuff from buds in catholic school. Not in public HS on long island
Waiting till marriage is primitive and outdated, they say...I always wonder why people think that if they rut like animals with a different person every week, they are somehow the more advanced lifeform.
Doing as the animals do, and THEY are the more advanced ones? Gimme a break.
I thank God everyday for my children’s Catholic school, where this message is taught with love and conviction.
Guess I was encouraged to think.
Not thinking, especially among kids, is what gets us into a lot of trouble.
Girls that have abortions, whether they were “told to” or not most likely fall under the category of doing a lot of things they’re told not to do and who don’t do a lot of things they’re told to do. Like having sex, for instance.
In any case it is that girl ( and the boy) who have to live with the decision the rest of their lives.
They don’t tald a lot about girls being coerced into having abortions by parents.
They don’t tell you that in “pro-choice” rhetoric.
Speak for yourself.
Oh, you are.
That is a very disgusting comment and I don’t believe a word of it. You should ask the mods to pull it.
Freepmail wagglebee to subscribe or unsubscribe from the moral absolutes ping list.
Used to be SOP, not a rarity to be joked about and scorned.
As were mine, but I do regret them, and all they represent to me were my weakness and immaturity.
Oh, it’s Steven Crowder! What a handsome couple! Thanks for the ping, STAR!
Hi, Laz. :)
Not for everyone though
I was a virgin when I got married (the first time). Needless to say, we fell from the garden of eden. But our first year together was like this fellow conveys. Liberals lie about it being awful and akward. It had an element or a spark of blessedness.
I would recommend virginity to young people. It’s better than all the sluthood and porn in the world put together. In liberalism sex, there is a missing element of human nature or natural law you can not discover otherwise.
I wonder if the fields you sowed have any regrets....
Anyone, by the way, who tells a 15 year old, or anyone else, that it’s okay to have an abortion is not thinking even like a sensible 12 year old.
That’s a problem, and it is prevalant.
Adults are lying to these girls when they should be honest with themselves and everyone else.
Plenty of seedy stuff came from Catholic schools, that’s a fact, especially now. That wasn[t coming from the teachings of the Church, but from rebelliousness. I don’t buy that it came from the nuns, and people have been trying to sell that to me for lo these many years. No sale.
Thinking for one’s self is more important than ever.
Women are living out the fantasy of a 17 year old boy and it started in the early ‘70s. They’re still not coming out ahead and history will not be kind to them.
When we come out of this phase, those who participated are going to come out looking at least thoughtless if not destructive and silly.
History won’t be kind to these people who thought mankind had fundamentally changed for no other reason than that they wanted it to and they had a hormonal pill to give to the girls to lull them into it.
The girls are at least terribly misguided. When one just looks at the soaring rates of depression, anti depressant use, mother-child disassociation, dysfunctional marriage, divorce, immaturity and irresponsibility omong male adults, decrease in men in the population, their decreased sex drive (viagra, really?) increased abortion rate, promiscuity, immodest behavior among both sexes, immaturity of parents, just to start, you can say that any thinking 12 year old can tell you that mothers killing their babies in order to have marital relations with some guy who will never care about them would lead to a certain deterioration in the culture and that any 15 year old who obediently follows orders to have the abortion was probably not acting the obedient child when she had sex with someone to whom she was not married.
She is the one who pays for he rest of her life. this culture does these girls no favors pretending it’s oday.
When the facts come out and people talk about it again, like we used to, truthfully, it’s ging to be tremendous.
..............That is a very disgusting comment and I dont believe a word of it.................
You might well be correct.
Unfortunately, I’ve had to live the past 45 years with the disgust!
Please don’t judge the truth.