Germany reunification should have happened after a ten-year hiatus, in order to develop a free East Germany as a more equal reunification partner. That was proposed by leading East German politicians, industrialists, intellectuals, etc.
But many East Germans were hungry for the economic goods that capitalism would provide, so it was easy to sell them on immediate reunification. Many of them ended up unemployed or displaced.
Meanwhile, Kohl, etc. went on their Balkan crusade, aided by the Vatican and our own US mis-leaders. This was a Roman Catholic-dominated operation, and Lutheran involvement in it (e.g, Merkel) happened later.
If there had been a free, Lutheran-domaniated East Germany, this crusade may well not have happened, whether in 1990 or 2000. (Merkel, by the way did NOT participate in the the original Lutheran-led East German revolution, which toppled the Berlin Wall.)
Probably exacerbated by your boyfriend Ratko being sent to prison.
Didn’t know all the details, but that matches what I have heard.
The UN resolution 743 and 781 did not have Germany in it.
These were no-flight zone
In 1994, NATO fighters shot down 4 Bosnian serb fighters for violating a no-fly zone
This was a combined NATO decision, not a German one...