At Easter time the wife and I were at my brothers and his wifes place. They have a daughter who is 41 years old, so not a child. My sis in law read and lived by the Spock book popular in the 1960’s which advocated never saying no and never physically punishing a child no matter what.
Following is what I and my wife witnessed. I would like you to please tell me what you yourselves would have done in this same situation as I will now describe it.
Child (remember she is 41 yrs old_ was in a rather heated discussion with dad and at some point she totally lost it and told dad to go :F**k himself, he was a “F**k” a “loser” that “everyone hates him” (sounds like projection here) and a few other choice epithets. Her mother was there and basically was wringing her hands begging her to stop, her dad as well since he was yelling also although used no profanity and relegated his argument to “how dare she speak to him in that way” sort of rhetoric.
What are your opinions on the behavior of the mom and dad in response to this outburst? How would you have handled it yourselves?
Thanks for your input.
Does she still wear braces??
This should have been resolved at 41 MONTHS not years!! The most vile, nasty, aggressive, violent children I have experienced (all in the last 9 years or so) are the ones who were never spanked. The government through various busy body agencies such as Child Protective Services have outlawed ALL correction whether verbal or corporal as “abuse.” Whereas “diagnosing” children’s outbursts and handy them a bunch of mind bending, health endangering pills is NOT abuse. My husband’s ex-wife is a CPS worker and she is probably the worst mother on the face of this earth (I’m a successful parent with two grown children, one married for over 8 years now, the other in the Air Force). She beFRIENDS her children but does not PARENT them. They are all on “meds” for various “ailments” such as phoney “learning disabilities” (read: Mom doesn’t put her boot up their arses), failing school (all three of them and not just “F” failing, Marianas Trench failing and skipping school) and headed for a life of felonious activity, teen pregnancy and drug abuse. It’s very sad when parents abdicate their parental responsibilty and make their children their equals or worse yet superiors.
CPS is merely a tool for vindictive (usually) mothers to get back at fathers for daring to move on after they divorce/dump said fathers. Dad doesn’t DARE train/instruct/correct his children on his ‘parenting time’ should she be magnanimous as court-appointed parental sovreign, enough not to thwart it. REAL child abuse is seldom if ever investigated. To do so is too politically incorrect and dangerous (involves venturing into minority communities).