I have a daughter who is in the ROTC program right now. She is doing things that really boost her confidence and skills. It is a great program for a kid that wants to do it, but if your heart is not in it it won’t work.
I agree with you about the heart needing to be in it if you choose the ROTC route to the military. Congratulations to your daughter for her choice. It appears to be working for her while she is yet in college so I’m sure that portends even better things yet to come for her.
An alternative view: sometimes the heart needs to follow the mind when certain practicalities become evident, such as difficulty in finding a job in a field. ROTC was just one example of applying practical thinking. Another alternative would have been a double major/minor that could lead to employment in the Human Resource department where a psychology degree may apply. Another business application is marketing/market research. Psychology is not just helping people talk through their individual problems.