My husband died from brain cancer but he didn’t die struggling for breath at the hospice death house.
Doctors tend to think a patient might as well go to hospice and die if there is nothing else they can do. The spouse or family member in charge should not hesitate to question the doctor’s “advice”. Find out all the possible placements besides hospice. There is a hospital like “Solara” which is a placement for the vitally ill. My husband rallied from that first time the doctor wanted to write him off, and he was in a rehab. hospital during that time, not hospice. Near the end, he was in our local hospital under the care of our family doctor who knew him well.
Do due diligence, and don’t accept what just one doctor says who can’t do anything else for him - that one doctor was wrong to suggest hospice so I researched and went another way. There are options beside hospice is what I am saying.
This is my final post on this.
Marcella, my husband didn’t die struggling for breath.
His doctors didn’t recognize his symptoms - a total loss of interest in food and water. I couldn’t get him to eat or drink.
I had to get the nursing supervisor and the health care supervisor here in our independent living facility to get through to these clowns that my husband was dying, and refused to go back to the hospital to do it.
Your experience is your experience, and mine is mine. We differ on the value of hospice. It made my husband’s last days so much easier.
Refusing hospice for your husband made your last days easier.
Our husband’s and our own individual needs are different. Let’s let it go at that.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I know it wasn’t easy.