Posted on 04/18/2012 6:59:33 AM PDT by Kaslin
This just doesn't sound romantic to me at all. It sounds so legalistic like you've laid down these demands, these twice a week, once a month quotas that she has to meet. I think if it was laid down like that to me, I wouldn't be in the mood either. Maybe she feels like when she puts the lingerie and the dress on, you're looking at her as more of an object than a person. She might feel like a player in a porn fantasy. Perhaps you could just sit back, be kind to her, and let her come to you in her time, even if it takes several weeks. If she feels like putting the lingerie and dress on aren't a demand but something that will make you and her happy, maybe she'll be willing. If not, perhaps you could see a counselor to help you work it out. One thing is for sure, porn is not the answer. It's dehumanizing and contrary to God's plan for humanity. It might make you happy in the short term, but in the long term, it's going to lead you down the wrong road.
You’re the type of man every woman hopes for.
Yeah no kidding. I need alcohol just to deal with female craziness...
That is the absolute truth. Women love chaos and drama and nice guys don't provide that. I noticed from very young that the nicest prettiest women were always attached to the biggest jerks....(ie Sandra Bullock and Jesse James) and conversely nice guys seemed to always be attached to real bitches.
Signed "use to be a nice guy until I learned the ways of the world"....
You have to understand that complaining about their men is a sport to women...and to remove that is like telling a man he can't watch NASCAR or NFL. There is a good reason a term used for women also means to "complain"...(b***h). I give them fodder by always doing two things: never give flowers and avoid Valentine's Day like the plague...that gives most women enough to complain about for the whole year. You can be pretty nice the rest of the time. Works like a charm!
Yep you can come home from work and find her in your bed with the pool boy Hot Balls Gonzalez and if you divorce she gets paid for doing that to you...gee wonder why men don't want to marry??
Many if not most women love to wear this type of clothing because it accentuates their body and it makes them ALSO feel good to do so.
Men for the most part are not buying this lingerie their gf's/wives are.
A guy in my dorm several years back was really good looking(no homo on my partLOL). He would treat women like absolute crap, just abuse them emotionally and they would do anything for him. Use and abuse them for sex and they would be at his door in 10 minutes if he called them back.
Oh the stories I could tell how he used woman and the crap he pulled...so much so that
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That’s a good reason.
I just hope you weren’t adhering to some arbitrary societal limitation that says men can approach women but women can’t approach men.
Oh no, I promise you, that wasn’t the case.
oh wow, we like you too!
Yes that is more often the case than not...and I have seen exactly the same thing over the years. People can deny it all they want but you can't convince me otherwise. I've been around long enough to see how things really work no matter how much some insist it isn't true...
I don’t think so, but in this case, it sounds very peculiar to me. He’s told her the amount of times she has to have sex with him and wear lingerie. There is nothing romantic about that at all. Secondly, he has admitted to watching porn, and because there is this “rule” set down that she has to wear lingerie once a month for him. Maybe she feels he is looking at her more objectively than lovingly, and/or perhaps there is a reason she is uncomfortable with lingerie stemming from an incident in her past or discomfort with her own body. There’s a reason why she doesn’t want to, and I think the poster should talk with her about it.
What you said. Word for word.
Just reading the comments on this thread shows what seriously deep do-do we (as in “we the society/country”) are in.
You have to understand that complaining about their men is a sport to women...
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Sadly, what you say is true about far too many women.
Not this woman, however. I have the world’s best husband, and I tell him so quite often.
Keep praying. Everything is in the toilet. We need an intervention beyond human understanding.
Absolutely, Albion. We are lost without His intervention. I pray daily, many times for His justice and mercy to prevail.
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