OMG! Fan, of course I consider you my family. Sionnsar’s family of origin has all but frozen me out. I have not had emails, calls or letters since he died. I kept knocking myself out trying to stay in touch with all of them during the death investigation that ensued for months in California (they live in California, you’d think they’d put in some effort, but NO.)
Sionn’s mother died on August 24th. Since then I have had no news of a memorial service or a burial. I guess I am no longer family since I am a widow.
I have had the long ordeal of waiting for the final death certificate, the meager life insurance funds, and now a 2 year wait for the widow’s benefits from social security. I am living on the edge, waiting for the bank to take the house since there was no life insurance on the mortgage which was in his name only.... I could go on, but that is most of it.
Fan, I understand depression from a whole different perspective. While Sionn grappled with his issues, I had plenty of my own. With him gone so much it was difficult to feel like I have any emotional support. I often told him that I’d rather have him home, and have home be small, than to have him killing himself for the elbow room he desperately felt he needed. Now I live in a 2,600 square foot home on 1.33 acres 10 miles outside the city of Redmond (might as well be in a State forest) and I cannot keep the place up, physically or financially.
None of this is Sionn’s doing - none of it. He was poisoned: either accidentally or on purpose. I will never accept the “official” version from California that he committed suicide. There is no evidence that supports this finding, just a total lack of competence and care. I have to live with the uncertainty, and having been under suspicion. The King County Sheriff’s detective up here got the case from California and his investigation has essentially cleared me. He points the finger back at Contra Costa County for having failed to do a proper job.
So there you have it. The only family I have are my own blood and Free Republic. That is plenty good enough for me.
Good thing you didn’t marry his family, eh? People can be so mean. I know.
“I often told him that I’d rather have him home, and have home be small,....”
Yes, he mentioned that. He loved you so very much.
I can’t believe you could be accused of hurting him.
People still have it out for you, eh?