The Muslim leadership can only play this for so long...their control of their populace as well...especially in light of communications now getting into even the most remote areas. That alone changes the equation.
You do not understand the power and influence of the business community and the cadre of US and European educated businessmen and industrialists. They hold sway, not the old men.
Those now in their 40’s have enormous influence and are replacing their fathers and uncles in positions of control. They are not Islamic fanatics and are rational in their actions. Your concept of the control of a few is not really valid in the GCC countries.