Can’t agree with you.
We have Pali mothers who are soooooo proud of their suicide bomber sons. Hell, there are suicide bomber collector’s cards over there.
The families have to share the blame. And the punishment.
They’re proud if they succeed and it gets concessions from Israel. If they get caught by one of the robots Israel has used, blow off their own leg(s) and harm nobody, then get shipped off to Be’er Sheva where they sing like canaries, they don’t get a trading card, mommy hides her head in shame, and the chiefs get a missile riding up their a@#$#. Make it not pay, and it is no longer the source of pride.