Repeat after me...
All that I Am,
All that I Have, and
All that I will be is Yours
for as Long as We Both Shall Live
spouses should not make unilateral decisions
to give away money, period.
It is very... stabilizing
I agree. In fact, spouses should not make unilateral decisions to spend money, either. Anything over a couple of hundred dollars gets run by the my car. She knew the car needed tires. We had talked about getting tires. But, I still called her when I was about to actually purchase the tires. We are at a point where a few hundred dollars isn't going to bounce any checks, but that money isn't mine; it's ours. And I have no right to spend it as only I see fit.
I think finding someone to marry with the same fiscal philosophy is at least as important as someone with the same political philosophy and second only to the same religious philosophy. Of course, finding someone who agrees with you in all three areas, as I was fortunate enough to do, is wonderful.