[Still Thinking]

Remember that we all need to help others from a position of strength, first LIVE like no one else so that eventually you CAN give like no one else.

And nothing says that can't be one of their budget items even now if it means that much to the husband, just set it at a level consistent with their income and other expenses. Give him a budget of $50 a month or whatever that he can give to people whom he feels need it.

[CSM]

Actually giving should be the first line of their budget, but in the case above that giving should not be putting his own family at risk.