[Nachum]

Telling the truth, even if it is distressing, is not the wrong thing

But blabbing it to the press is

[mountainbunny]

Again, this isn't something that can stay hidden forever. Secrets like this rarely do. Once a bunch of people know (Schwarzenegger, Shriver, their kids, the mother, the boy, her family, her ex), it's going to hit the media.

There is a saying: Three can keep a secret if two of them are dead. Once a few people know about something, it's going to come out. If Shriver felt that it was better to control the release after letting her kids know, who is to say she is wrong?

Neither Shriver nor the children caused this mess and none of them have an obligation to pretend that Schwarzenegger is a good father, a good husband or a good person.

On top of all that, Schwarzenegger and Shriver have four kids: the oldest is 21, the youngest in his teens You make a huge assumption that they didn't know or suspect something was going one when their dad was spending so much time with this woman and her child.

Put the blame where it belongs: on the cheaters, the adulterers and the liars, Schwarzenegger & the other woman.