There is also something you don’t understand...Mormon culture. At the time, I was Mormon (I have since left, but not because of the gay fiancee).
In Mormonism, young Returned missionaries (age 21) are encouraged to marry as soon as possible and women are condisered ‘old maids’ if they are still single at 21 (then they are encouraged to go on a mission themselves to make them more marriageable).
Also, Mormon dating patterns are different than other cultures. You date someone for a month or two, you pray to know if this is ‘the one’, and if you get a confirmation (burning in the bosom) you get engaged and engagements usually only last about 2 months. I know a lot of LDS who went from meeting their spouse to married in less than 6 months and often less than 4.
We were being cautious. We dated for 6 months and would have been engaged almost 4. In Mormonism, that is a very long time.
I have pinged others who used to be LDS as well who know about this aspect of Mormon culture.
You’re right, but I do know some. I have some very good mormon friends, and they spoke by request at my father’s funeral. Their dating culture is alien to mine.
Can agree with them on many things, but I have to say there is plenty on which we disagree. But they understand me, better than my family who are atheists. It was strange in a way, to have them and me and all the Christians speaking for my father who left the church when he was 30 and never returned.
But anyways, glad you converted and are on our side of the track.