That should have been a hint.
>>I was getting ready for bed when my fiancé and boyfriend of 10 years,<<
My favorite quote from any TV series (in this case “Lois and Clark”) was when someone from the future asked Lois “historians want to know something... JUST HOW STUPID ARE YOU??? (glasses on) “I am Clark Kent!” (glasses off) “I am Superman! (glasses on) “I am Clark Kent!” (glasses off) “I am Superman!
If you are with a guy for 10 years and don’t know he is gay, you are dumber than Lois Lane! And if you sleep with someone that long, you are just a slut who probably deserves the result.