I have lived in NY, DC, SF - and can say I have never met a “normal” homosexual male, especially those in their 20’s and 30’s. It seems to me, the younger they are, the more their sexual proclivities absolutely dominate (and therefore screw up) their lives.
For those that can survive into middle-age, I find that older gay men, in their 50’s or older, can be a bit more stable
When one continually gets f'ed in the head, one is truly f'ed in the head.
What do you expect?
You're dealing with people who “define” who they are through their sexual orientation.
There is a reason why when dealing with these sorts of folk often end up talking about their sex organs at some point. You can have a conversation on C# and how to deal with certain types of arrays, and yet the conversation will somehow end up about their lover, disease, discrimination against them, why they became that way............. Sex dominates their life. That is who and what they are. That's why they seek affirmation, why they want to take the biggest drum they can find and run around banging it, screaming how gay they are..............
Yes you're right. Most (The overwhelming majority) of gays, especially the young ones, are messed up from A-Z when you look at their lives. That's why close minded people like me would have an issue with an openly gay teacher or day care provider etc.............