My point was for the child to have his little fit in his room, and believe me they tire of it quickly when no one is watching and telling them to stop.
When you're at the mall that doesn't work out very well.
That was the first time I saw a tantrum. I thought something was wrong with her. She was alittle over two years old - the “terrible two”. I gathered her up and took her to the closest dressing room and spanked her.
From then on I was prepared. I carried my wooden spoon in my purse. If she hinted at acting out or started to, the little spoon would peek out of my shoulder bag. She stopped. She KNEW what that meant. She feared the punishment and started having respect for authority as well as developing self control.
This “old fashioned method” has worked for generations. It's tried and true. Many don't do it and kids lack self control. They laugh at adults with the “reason me silly” approach when they don't have the ability to reason. Since our culture has boohooed this, we have more out out control kids that have no regard for authority. I believe the two are directly linked.
There are some kids that have less of a rebellious spirit but they are few and far between. Even those kids will act out occasionally. It's the nature of kids to do that. Having said all this, I don't want the EXTREME to be interpreted. We didn't beat our kids silly. That's usually the defense people use against spanking! EXTREMES! THey always have to go to EXTREMES to vilify you as the parent. We ignored that. We also didn't let liberals undermine our confidence as parents to do what does work - SPANKING! We didn't warehouse them away in daycare either and chase the dollar and shower them with things because we weren't around. YOu see kids don't schedule their needs and emotions to fit your money chasing scehdule. We raised them ourselves instead of having someone else raise them.
It's been rewarding and we have a close family. I see the results of the humanistic punishment methods ... andit’s going to be a tough road for those parents ... especially when the kids are in their teens. Anyway ... I highly recommend old fashioned spanking.
I totally disagree with your approach. I do agree with letting them cry when they are babies and don't want to go to sleep in their OWN ROOM. Yes, they do that for attention. It's natural. Eventually they cry less ad finally KNOW it's bedtime and to SLEEP! However when it comes to actions like throwing fits etc., spanking works wonders!