Extremely good point as are the ones that follow it. You are correct about the potential for "self-immolation" and the solution being in the ballot box. However, who was it who said, "It's not how many people who vote, but who counts the votes that matters."?
And to add to the frustrations, you are right it’s who counts the votes that matters. And we as a people at least those who vote are taking it on faith that the process will be honest and accurate.
And to my sorrow, there is more and more evidence as each election cycle passes that there is vote fraud occurring and it is increasing in size. Thus the pressures for a second civil war increase as the perceived redress of inequities appears to be taken away as each new election cycle occurs.