If Abby is your litmus test, you need to get out more.
Your acting as though nobody could possibly have trouble sailing the Indian Ocean, just poor little Abby.
Thats tough sailing and bad things can and will happen. It is non of your business what choices Abby or her family make. You have a collectivist mentality. Petty and meddlesome. Just more evidence why laws in America are becoming more and more intrusive. More and more oriented towards applying the full cohersive force of Law and Law Enforcement to curb unusual or uncomfortable behavior. Leave other people alone and take care of yourself and your family the best you can.