The birth mother has said many of those things in interviews. I don’t know if she has said those things in court, and the other woman has a different story on many of those points, and has said so in court. I would note that they probably have a record of when Jenkins showed up at the doctor for insemination, not that getting inseminated is something I would think is a “bonding event”.
The question is, was Jenkins in the delivery room? Lisa doesnt’ say she wasn’t, so I assume she was. Jenkins says that the two of them decided to have the child, and Lisa was chosen to have the child because she was younger and wanted to do it.
Again, the stories are divergent, Jenkins said she regularly visited with the child, Lisa says Jenkins never visited. Although at some point Lisa says Jenkins had the child for a time in Vermont. I don’t know how we would know the full truth, but I trust that the judge in the case has a much better idea of the truth than we do, since he took testimony under oath and probably has statements from friends, relatives, and the doctors offices.
Lisa lost interest in the relationship I think the same time she found her faith. She is certainly a poster child for how, for women at least, homosexuality is not genetic.
homosexuality is not genetic
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No it isn’t. My father “came out” when I was about 4. By the time I was in HS, several of my friends father’s (and a couple of mothers) also came out.
This was when AIDS was just making headlines, and a few of us had parents who were HIV positive. At the time, there was a lot of question about how it was transmitted, how long “incubation” was and the like. There was also a lot of misinformation.
About the same time, people started saying homosexuality was genetic, that people were born that way. My friends and I (and several others) started a semi official support group on campus to deal with these issues and questions. “If my dad is gay, does that mean I could be too?”, “Could my dad have been HIV positive when I was born?”, “Can HIV be contracted by causal contact?”, “Do I need to be tested?”. These questions seem silly now, but they weren’t in the mid 1980’s.
Being able to talk about it did help. And there was no “forced” acceptance of our parent’s choices. Interestingly, a couple of years later the “support group” was banned from campus for being “intolerant”.