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(15 Abortions): An addiction that only motherhood could cure
Washington Post ^ | October 30, 2009 | Manuel Roig-Franzia

Posted on 10/30/2009 7:08:01 AM PDT by Publius804

An addiction that only motherhood could cure

Irene Vilar tries to explain the pathology that led her to abort 15 pregnancies

The two little impossibilities want Mami's attention.

Loretta, a self-assured and quietly focused 5-year-old, hides squiggly line drawings under the furniture at a relative's home in Alexandria. Lolita, a high-spirited 3-year-old, sways to Beethoven's "Für Elise."

Mami scoops up both daughters. They tumble into the soft embrace of the couch, all squeals and nuzzles and squirmy delight. The girls start wriggling loose, and Mami pulls them back. One more hug. For an instant, it's as if releasing them would somehow make them disappear, would confirm their utter impossibility.

That Irene Vilar embraces the role of motherhood is a grand incongruity, a mind-blower. She has just published a precariously nuanced, intellectually ambitious and unnervingly frank memoir titled "Impossible Motherhood: Testimony of an Abortion Addict." In the book, Vilar writes about a "shameful" period in her life -- before she became a mother -- when she says she underwent 15 abortions in 15 years.

(Excerpt) Read more at washingtonpost.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: bookreview; impossiblemotherhood; postabortivewomen; proabortion; prolife
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Very, very sad...
1 posted on 10/30/2009 7:08:03 AM PDT by Publius804
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To: Publius804

Probably Bush’s Fault.


2 posted on 10/30/2009 7:13:35 AM PDT by Redleg Duke ("Don't fire unless fired upon, but it they mean to have a war, let it begin here." J Parker, 1775)
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To: Publius804

She’s living the liberal dream....


3 posted on 10/30/2009 7:13:54 AM PDT by cartervt2k
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To: Publius804

“...precariously nuanced, intellectually ambitious and unnervingly frank...”

Ahh, the fabled triple adverb-adjective combo. Technically, only people with useless college degrees are allowed to employ such a turn of phrase.


4 posted on 10/30/2009 7:14:08 AM PDT by Flightdeck (Go Longhorns)
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To: Publius804

I could not read it. Makes my flesh crawl.


5 posted on 10/30/2009 7:16:13 AM PDT by Psalm 144 (What did you think NEW WORLD ORDER meant? The Constitution? States' rights? Individual liberty?)
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To: Publius804

A friend of mine I no longer talk much with said she lost total track of how many abortions she had ... I wouldn’t be surprised if it was around 15. She lives pained to this day and doesn’t even understand the connection. Yes, it’s sad indeed.


6 posted on 10/30/2009 7:16:39 AM PDT by mlizzy ("It is impossible to walk rapidly and be unhappy" --Mother Teresa of Calcutta.)
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To: Publius804

I had a friend like this once. A long time ago. I’m in my 40’s now.

She was a nurse, of all things. Who was amazingly fertile, evidently. Each new boyfriend yielded a new abortion. After three, I asked her what she was thinking and offered to try to help. After six, I wondered why she was still someone I considered a friend. And I never spoke to her again; to this very day.

However, I pray for her every day and hope that something snapped some sense into her, since I sure wasn’t able to.


7 posted on 10/30/2009 7:20:48 AM PDT by Daisyjane69 (Michael Reagan: "Welcome back, Dad, even if you're wearing a dress and bearing children this time)
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To: Publius804

Uggh - saw this elsewhere.

Don’t know what is worse. The cavalier abortions, The evil, irresponsible pervert professor (symbol of our higher education today), or the fact that although this woman has seen God’s grace through the love of her children, she still supports abortion.


8 posted on 10/30/2009 7:21:19 AM PDT by PGR88
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To: mlizzy

Several times I have had the experience of certain laquered, self consciously chic “women of a certain age” casting acidic glares at my kid when I have been hanging out with him at a park or mall, just having fun together.

I noticed too the utterly unhinged, demonic hatred some of these types dumped upon Sarah Palin and so tellingly upon her family.

I wonder how much “aborter’s remorse” is out there for those now punished for not being punished with a baby?


9 posted on 10/30/2009 7:26:24 AM PDT by Psalm 144 (What did you think NEW WORLD ORDER meant? The Constitution? States' rights? Individual liberty?)
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"Robin Morgan, a feminist author who wrote the foreword to Vilar's book, says "consensuality is impossible in that situation because of the power imbalance."

If that is indeed what Robin Morgan believes, then she'd also have to admit that many hundreds of thousands of abortions every year are not "consensual" or "by choice," because of the "power imbalance" of the mating couple.

Of course, she does not conclude that. But she should according to her own published definitions and values.

Abortion is never the choice of the child. Often not the choice of the man. And very often not the free (true, uncoerced, knowledgeable and willing) choice of the woman, either, especially if she is very poor, vey young, or (like Vilar) very emotionally dependent.

Truly pathetic that so-called feminists support this ugly, cruel, pitiful travesty.

10 posted on 10/30/2009 7:27:43 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o (It's not like a box of chocolates.. more like a jar of jalapenos, It'll burn your butt tomorrow.)
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To: Publius804
At the same time, Vilar has not necessarily been heartily embraced by the abortion rights movement.

This line pretty much tells the story about the pro-abort movement. If they think getting an abortion is such a great idea or is really no different than say using a condom, why isn't this woman championed for all her abortions?

12 posted on 10/30/2009 7:31:00 AM PDT by cartervt2k
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I wonder how much “aborter’s remorse” is out there for those now punished for not being punished with a baby?

With more than Fifty Million (50,000,000) legal surgical abortions in the USA since 1973, the answer to your question is "A Lot"

13 posted on 10/30/2009 7:36:21 AM PDT by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilization is Aborting, Buggering, and Contracepting itself out of existence.)
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To: Morgana

I hate to say this, but she just didn’t give a shit about the abortion. Good grief, she was a nurse. She knew about birth control, of course.

It was stunning.

I just suddenly couldn’t stand the sound of her voice when she wanted to go out (back in the day). Eventually, I felt dirty just being in the same room with her, even though I’d done nothing wrong.

The kicker? She was one of the nicest people I ever knew in my whole life.

She presented me with a disconnect that I could never reconcile.


14 posted on 10/30/2009 7:38:48 AM PDT by Daisyjane69 (Michael Reagan: "Welcome back, Dad, even if you're wearing a dress and bearing children this time)
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To: Publius804

This woman is quite unbalanced. I’m sorry that she is so fertile. I’m sorry that she has any kids. They will suffer from her conflicted personality. She wants another child now? No conscience.


15 posted on 10/30/2009 7:39:38 AM PDT by originalbuckeye
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To: Publius804

Considering the likelyhood of getting pregnant from a single act of intercourse which must be experienced within a certain time frame I’ll bet that this person is NEVER off of her back.


16 posted on 10/30/2009 7:43:48 AM PDT by Don Corleone ("Oil the gun..eat the cannolis. Take it to the Mattress.")
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To: Publius804

Here we go again. We applaud addicts who go to rehab like they just saved the world (from themselves?) or won the Nobel Peace Prize...that evidently means nothing.

What a world of the self-centered.


17 posted on 10/30/2009 7:53:48 AM PDT by Blue Collar Christian (><BCC>NRA)
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To: Publius804

This abortion addict named her daughter “Lolita”? THere are no words...


18 posted on 10/30/2009 8:29:38 AM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: Publius804

I give her credit for her confession but she’ll have to see God for forgiveness.

Why would anyone think she could suddenly be a good mother now? I predict she’ll snap and kill her kids to get her old life back.


20 posted on 10/30/2009 11:44:17 AM PDT by <1/1,000,000th%
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