If you go back to the founders they kept things in order — as do many people today!
God
Country
Family
Job
Other interests
You can see that the self-centered Items are at the bottom of their list.
If we don’t live this principle we are falling into the secular trap of the modern world.
Read Matthew Kelly’s book: “Rediscovering Catholicism”
Individualism is one of the sicknesses of the church.