Girls and young women hook up because they think that’s how it’s supposed to be. You hook up, and maybe the guy will want to date you. Colossal FAIL. It’s so screwed up.
When I was in college, I was never, ever, not even once, “asked out” - and really, where would a couple go on a small campus in a small town? I chose to just not hook up at all and stayed single for a loooong time. But lots of my female friends, including my best friend who was a virgin until her senior year...fell for the hook-up lie because guys never asked them out. They just gave in and hooked up (slept with) the guy they liked because it was the only way to “get to” the guy they liked. This was in the early 90’s.
I tell my younger sis and her friends repeatedly that hooking up with a guy, then expecting a relationship is the wrong way to go. No one listens! Then they wonder why they never have long-term relationships. I compare it to buying a book from your favorite author, then reading the last chapter before reading it from the beginning.
“When I was in college, I was never, ever, not even once, “asked out” - and really, where would a couple go on a small campus in a small town? I chose to just not hook up at all and stayed single for a loooong time.”
Good for you! I hope my son meets a gal like you one day.
Not dating is not so bad either. I stopped dating completely during the ‘disco’ era just because I hated disco. I hated the clothes, the stupid music, the clubs, the lights, that mirrored ball hanging from the ceiling of every bar, the wierd way the guys dressed,danced and the pick up lines....EVERYTHING...LOL! (Showing my age here..lol)
While that's not a bad adage, I think that the oldest is still the best - Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
I tell my younger sis and her friends repeatedly that hooking up with a guy, then expecting a relationship is the wrong way to goThose are the key words.