"Committed boyfriend"? You're living in the Twilight Zone, sweetie, and you don't even realize it. Even putting aside the issue of her and her acquaintances' abortions, who ARE these insane people? Are they all on drugs?
Yes, it is fantasy, and fiction, to believe you can have a committed boy friend, that is a life time partner, etc. As if these are better than marriage.
Before I retired I worked for a fairly large Consulting Engineering firm, after a few years I began to notice those that lived together, you knew the first names of their partners, but most often you did not know the first names of their wife or husband. The reason, those living together (not married) had to refer to their partners by their first name, they could say, “my wife” or “my husband.”
It has been my experience that those committed boy friends, or girl friends were most often,at the best short committments.
Doing that which is right in our own eyes will never bring us to the righteousness of God!