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Posted on 04/23/2008 4:14:27 PM PDT by wagglebee
Washington, DC (LifeNews.com) -- A woman whose abortion experience adversely impacted her family has started a new web site to minister to family members who need hope and healing following an abortion. While post-abortions groups focus mostly on the women having abortions, and sometimes the fathers, family members are often forgotten.
Fredenburg became pregnant at 18 and an abortion she now regrets.
"I thought abortion would erase the pregnancy," she told LifeNews.com. "I thought I could move on with my life. I was wrong."
Fredenburg was able to deal with her abortion grief with the help of a professional counselor, family and friends.
During the grieving process, Fredenburg discovered her family had been negatively impacted be her abortion decision.
Drawing from this experience, Fredenburg is breaking new ground with the launch of the Abortion Changes You outreach that connects those touched by abortion with support resources.
AbortionChangesYou.com is more than a Web site for people who have experienced abortion, she tells LifeNews.com. It's a safe online environment where visitors can participate in interactive content, explore the experiences of others and type in a ZIP code to connect with local resources.
"Just as each person's story is unique, every person moves through the process of healing differently," Fredenburg said of women and family members who experience abortion.
"The Web site allows visitors to privately explore the voices of men, women, grandparents, other family members and friends who have been touched by abortion," she said.
She said the web site also offers ways to begin the healing process for those stuck in confusion and grief.
The web site and program behind it help women and family members build a support system, explore emotions, identify unhealthy behaviors, and space to anonymously share stories, artwork, poetry, and songs.
Fredenburg says the program is non-political and non-religious so people of all backgrounds can be helped.
"It is my hope that this Web site will assist men and women as they seek to make sense of their abortion or the abortion of someone close to them," Fredenburg says.
Related web sites:
AbortionChangesYou.com
And there are MILLIONS more women just like her out there.
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“During the grieving process”
Do murderers really ever grieve—or just feel sorry for themselves while playing a victim?
I’ve talked to a lot of women who felt genuine grief after abortions that ONLY left when they asked the Lord’s Forgiveness.
You are so right. At the time, many (can I say most?) feel abortion is the only way out and are pressured by boyfriends to “get rid of it”. This is a great idea, and I wish her all the best with it. Praise God.
Abortuary “counselors” are usually very skilled at their craft. They exploit and prey on the deepest fears of women in crisis pregnancies. They convince them there is no way to surmount the difficulties of their situation and that the “procedure” is the only rational solution. Why do women seek counseling at these “women’s centers”? Because they may naively believe they are there not to market abortion but to counsel for all “options.” Why do they not go to a pro-life center? Because they are afraid that instead of love, support, and encouragement, they are afraid of being called ugly names by people like you for even considering a legal, if awful, abortion. There are gentle, compassionate ways to be pro-life.
Easy to blame it on someone else, but each woman who signs on the dotted line for a baby’s life to be aborted is completely morally responsible for her own deadly action. Killing a baby is never a valid choice.
The victim of abortion is the baby.
My sister Mary, had an abortion in 1984. Her child would be 24 years old. It has devastated her even today. She told me last week that this month April is always hard on her. She has never forgiven herself. I feel so guilty myself for it. I wish to God that she had come to me or my other sister in her time of need. Both my other sister and I feel we have failed her. She is hurting so bad. I am going to send this website link to her. I wish I can take her pain away. She had her abortion when she was just over 4 months pregnant.
When I think back, I was pregnant at the same time with my son Andrew. My God, everytime she must have looked at me it must have eaten her up inside. I will never forget the day she told me. It was when my son was about 4 months old.
I’ve talked to a lot of women like her and it’s tough.
What usually seems to help is talking to other women about it, but mostly sharing their stories with women who are contemplating abortion. She should also look into the “Silent No More” campaign:
http://www.freerepublic.com/tag/silentnomore/index?tab=articles
“Killing a baby is never a valid choice.”
I know that, I was sharing what post-abortive clients told me in the years I counseled at a CPC. I know she can always say no, but realistically, the pressure and reassurance that “it will be better” can SOMETIMES be overpowering to an already scared and hopeless girl/woman. Don’t forget, too, that kids are still being taught in school and at PP that it’s just a clump of cells, not a living human being. That’s why PP will not show a patient an ultrasound.
Thankfully, we have a forgiving God who will comfort these women and heal them when they truly realize what they have done and go to Him.
What 14 or 15 year old would not compile at the thought of being ejected from home probably forced to give the baby up until their 16 and then have to fight the courts to get the child back. To most youngsters abortion would seem the easy option.
That was harsh statement, especially if it was directed at the post-abortives.
I am glad to see that there are those out there who are coming to the aid of post-abortives and their families. What PP wants to purport (choice) and that choice of one effects many, not just that one. May the Lord bring an end to this shame and scourge upon our country, and soon.
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