Do I have this right? Both the woman and man were drunk. If she is excused from her consent because of it, than he should be excused for the same reason.
Exactly. A woman who drinks is responsible for her acts if she gets behind the wheel, even if too drunk to realize what she's doing. A woman who drinks is responsible for her acts if she takes a swing at a cop, even if too drunk to realize what she's doing.
Simple solution, ladies: DONT GET DRUNK. If you do, don't whine about who you wake up with
Except she claimed not to have ever consented to the act. The alcohol is irrelevant. It's a he said/she said thing.