My reasoning for saying that a "Moderate Muslim" is an oxymoron, is because Islam is not a moderate religion.
I direct you to SauronOfMordor's home page. There you will find some interesting excerpts from the Qu'ran and the Sunnah, that provide some background information on Islam.
My thanks to SauronOfMordor for putting together a great home page.
The good doctor aside, Islam is not a religion of caring and understanding for those who do not believe in it. It is a religion of forced conversion, subjugation, and death for nonbelievers. Unlike just about every other religion on this planet where you can be a little bit Christian, or a little bit Jewish, if you are little bit Muslim, there are consequences. Sadat and Salman Rushdie come to mind. It is my belief that if Dr. Zuhdi Jasser were living in a Muslim country, there would already be a "Fatwa" on his life for not being Muslim enough.
Given what I have read of the Muslim Holy texts, and given what Muslims have actually done, both currently and in history, I have come to the conclusion that being a true, devout Muslim, adhering to all of Islam's tenants and teachings, makes it hard, if not impossible, to be a moderate on any issue dealing with non Muslims.
These, of course, are just my opinions on the subject, and not really relevant to anyone else by myself. Hopefully, they will shed some light on my reasoning for saying that "Moderate Muslim" is an oxymoron.
Best Regards to you both.
Sergio
I almost forgot. My apologies if my original post was in some way offensive, that was not my intent.
Best Regards
Sergio