Poor kids will never be good enough. No wonder they drink. There's nothing so sad as a child whose own parents don't love him or her as they are. Nothing is so devestating to a child.
The pity is that they are all wonderful people. But her mind was set against them while she was pregnant. She and the doctors kept looking for problems, preparing to abort them if necessary.
She never got to bond with them before they were born. Sadly, it shows now.
I just hope that when they have kids they can create a different mind set.