Posted on 02/03/2007 10:22:53 PM PST by freedomdefender
Pornography is a "dirty little secret" and people are logging on to look at it, more than ever. They're doing it at home and at work. For some, it's an obsession.
"It felt like a high. It felt like, just an uncontrollable urge," said Justin VanAntwerp.
On the outside, Justin Van Antwerp "appeared" to have great life. He was a minister, who had a wife and two little girls. No one knew he was addicted to porn. It all started when he looked a playboy magazine when he was a teenager. "Then, that wouldn't satisfy. Then I found a whole new world of videos and webcams and all those sorts of things," said Antwerp. “I never got caught. I got really good at covering things up."
Justin is among the growing number of men and women who are dealing with pornography addiction. You used to have to go to an adult video store to get it. Now, you can see it all online.
Pornography on the internet is a 57-billion dollar industry. It's larger than all professional sports. There are 4.2 million pornographic websites. Those who view it are 72% male.
Justin was looking at pornography at home and at work.
Looking at pornography while at work isn't all that uncommon. Computer company Trivalent says they've investigated cases of pornography use at work, most are kept private, but in the case of the Cutlerville Fire department, where pornographic images were found on computers, the case ended up catching the media's attention. Trivalent says businesses need to take a pro-active approach.
"What can we do to stop that from happening to begin with? We implement things like content filtering." Richard Reiffer, Chief Technical Officer for Trivalent.
Dr. Paul Critelli sees patients who have all kinds of addictions. He's not surprised that pornography addiction is becoming more common. He says Americans have a different view of sex and nudity compared to people in other countries. American beliefs that nudity and sex should be kept out of view, create an addictive urge for some to get their eyes on it.
Psychologists say viewing porn at work is a sign that you have a problem. Other questions to ask include: Frequency - Are you logging on more often? Intensity - Are the pictures becoming more graphic? Duration - Are the sessions online becoming longer?
"If those things are increasing by jumps or rather steadily, I would say you have a problem. Those attributes are a good measure of any kind of problem behavior," said Critelli.
Critelli believes there are cases where people can view porn and not have a problem. He doesn't think small amounts are morally wrong or necessarily dangerous for a relationship, but psychologist Tom Karel disagrees.
"It creates unrealistic expectations and unrealistic ideas to what normal really looks like," said Karel.
In Justin's case, pornography ruined his relationship with his wife. He says he hit rock bottom when he picked up a female hitchhiker. " Nothing happened, but had the opportunity arisen, I would have cheated on my wife that day. That was a scary place to be."
A few months later, Justin told his wife about his addiction.
“She was devastated, and she left the following weekend. The next morning, I met with the elders of the church and resigned my position."
Justin went into therapy and is now involved with a local anti-pornography group called XXX Church. Justin hopes, by coming out about his problem, he can show others, that they can overcome their addiction.
“By God's grace, people lifting me up, I've been able to get a hold on it."
OHHHH, that explains a lot. So all that double your pleasure stuff is really about double time pay?
You have discovered my identity. I must kill you now.
Wait. Putting you out of your pain may be what you desire.
I ... I don't know how to procede ...
ROFLMAO!
Can anyone recommend a internet filter, which blocks this filth from children & adults for that matter? Thanks in advance!
>>Pr0n addiction isn't the only possible explanation...
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=Methamphetamine+Pornography
I was thinking more on the lines that having sex with the same unimaginative, recalcitrant woman for ten years would turn any noncheating man to porn. But, whatever floats your boat.
I'm an adult, and I haven't seen any porn in a couple years. My email filtering is done by Earthlink for me and I don't surf to porn sites, though. It's not like it comes blowing through the window, after all. All those 'accidental' exposures I hear about somehow don't happen to me...
Actually, I think it's the exact reverse. A lot of things that are forbidden are forbidden precisely because long experience has taught that folks are best off not doing or experiencing them because they are drawn to them and will become addicted if exposed. Pornography is a great example.
You can see boobies on the beach in Sweden any time you want (at least from April to August). Do you think there is no pornography usage is Sweden?
Groan! (But not bad).
You can get it in a mouseclick. You don't have to go to that shabby store with sticky walls.
It's far more arousing. What grabs you more: a magazine picture, or a groaning video hottie you can practically smell and taste?
The rapid escalation of sexual imbecility. Now, if ever you've clicked one of these things, your in-box will be bombarded with stuff so low it would disgust a slug.
Forty years ago, your 8-year-old had no idea. Now, your 8-year-old can Google something innocent, like "Little Women" (title of the Louisa May Alcott novel, remember) and get indescribable things done to human beings who look like children.
All the same, except it's different.
"Hehehe, that reminds me of what Voltaire said about the Holy Roman Empire - that it wasn't Holy, or Roman, or an Empire."
Hit the nail on the head there. It's the biggest moneymaking industry on the web...but it's a "little secret."
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Pornography is having democrats elected to office.
To quote Bo Diddley.
Of course! And I only vote because I want to put good-looking pols in office.
I'm willing to concede that she didn't enter the world with that red lipstick!
Maybe try one that includes members of the opposite sex.
Ah, they all do.
I think Samantha used to make Darren turn his over before he left the house.
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