Of course you are right. It is easy to embrace something, especially something given the PC-seal of approval, if your own life is never negatively affected by that something.
What continues to puzzle me is how otherwise intelligent people like Bill Kristol, Fred Barnes, Michael Barone, and WSJ editorial writers, fail to see the political/demographic consequences of unending mass immigration. The GOP -- a conservative GOP that is -- only has a chance with immigrants that are thorougly assimilated, and assimilation is easier with lower levels of immigration. How these guys actually think the GOP can even break even with the current wave of immigration is a mystery to me. It makes me wonder if they really believe the things they say.
It is an elitist disconnect.
I can also give you an explanation that you might not understand--but a lot of women will. Housework is a highly-charged cultural/political issue--at least it is for those who have to take care of families.
These guys are all married to women who don't have to clean up after a family, or after themselves. And those women like it that way.
Up until the past ten-twenty years, servants were hard to come by, expensive and not at all servile. Now nobody like Tony Snow mows their own lawn , and Mrs. Snow sure doesn't wipe down her own bathroom. They have someone who is Just Like One of the Family doing that sort of thing now. And the Snows like it like that, and anyone who doesn't like it is just a Know Nothing Neo-Nativist (and a nattering nabob, too!)
The Bush twins had a Mexican nanny in their teens--Laura Bush doesn't clean up after Scottie.
The elites are different from you and me.