I'm not clear here on what you're talking about. If the baby was dead, then it's a miscarriage, and removing a dead fetus is not abortion. If the baby was alive, then killing it was murder.
Nobody has a right to kill someone else in order to avoid suffering. If that were the case, we would all be dead, for we have all suffered and we have all caused suffering. Dealing with suffering patiently and creatively --- and not destructively --- is how we grow in humanity.
OK... let's remove your brain and leave you on a feeding tube for the rest of your life.
Nature killed this baby. It had no brain and was therefore only "alive" like an amoeba or bacteria strain is alive. The humane thing to do for everyone, family AND baby, would have been to abort it.