Gay men are different. They will often act effeminate and imitate women, but very seldom do they actually have any antipathy towards women. They just don't seem to be as angry as lesbians are.
Lesbian couples seem to have one of the partners becoming the man, looking more and more mannish. One woman pastor, Anita Hill, looks exactly like a man in her recent photo. (She is an avowed lesiban.)
The Arizona governor is a known lesbian. She has a deep voice and mannish behavior.