Posted on 03/21/2006 11:29:17 AM PST by Abathar
Yes, I was.
I understand your point, certainly.
Especially with young girls. I've seen surveys claiming that more than half of all women have been abused. My wife was 'fondled' on several occasions as a child, once by a family member, and it still affects her to this day.
Back then, no one told young ladies about the dangers, no one talked to kids about what to do if anything like that happened.
I have tried to be very open with my daughter, and prepare her for exactly how to react.
But of course, even with the best of planning, sometimes . . .
I'm so sorry for what happened to you.
Ha!
I am not defending her, the boy's mom refused to allow him to testify. No case. No trial no punishment, other than parole. I pray she is a blessing to her new husband. She was married (2nd) last week.
I'm wondering if her reference to "I've lost family" is referring to her hubby. It was her 2nd husband? Already? What happened to the first one?
Self Ping
"Actually, if this had been my boy, I'd have read him the riot act. I'd tell him, "Don't give me that 'victim' crap! You knew what you were doing! She' married, for god's sake! What the heck did I teach you!""
I was just jesting about the difference between boys and girls in the same position. In reality I would smack the boy upside the head if she were married let alone other considerations, i.e. unmarried & unprotected & you don't know this girl & a million other things......But man she is good looking..MUST FIGHT THE BLONDE URGE.......
Oh, yeah -- don't get me wrong, I would *understand* why he did it!
I listened to the taped phone calls.
She sounded like she was a junior high school kid herself.
It sounded -- to me -- like she liked the excitement of youthful crushes and did not want to grow up and have an adult relationship --- and especially not the responsibility of an adult relationship: kids, bills, money, etc.
Dude, this girl has a pretty face, but that motorcycle pic is not all that hot.
Just about every family law judge in America will.
That is typical libspeak. How the boy FEELS is all that matters...
I know this is late for a normal reply, but I replied to brownsfan about the "welcome to FR" comment at the link below. That is one of the "been there, got the tee shirt and wore it out" replies from longtime FReepers.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1600450/posts?page=122#122
Read my post again - I said it wasn't his fault, thus it was hers. I think it is safe to say that 90+% of 14 year old boys would have done her if she came on to them, if you are too stupid to understand that then I can't help you out any more.
And you're to stupid to see that she is the only one to blame, at all for sleeping with a 14 year old boy. Regardless if he wanted it or not.
The ONLY blame you put into your first post was not blaming him for wanting "that".
"Who could blame any 14 year old boy for not saying no to that..."
No blame at all for her...none at all....If you cleared that up in a later post I must have missed it. However, as you can clearly see your first post says nothing about her being at fault in this at all.
I'm sure you've been flamed to a crisp here, so I'm going to agree with you... Sort of...
I seem to recall that when I was 14, "I was so horny that the crack of day wasn't safe!" Yes, 14 year old boys tend to be full of hormones, and will do amazingly stupid things for the attention of girls in general: Which is why it's so important that 14 year olds SHOULD NOT BE HAVING SEX in the first place! They don't have the emotional maturity to think over the consequences of having sex, or doing the things that they think will get them sex.
At 14, I would have jumped at the chance to have sex with her. Heck, at 44, I'd still jump at the chance... Well, maybe, she's awfuly cute... But that's not the point.
The whole point isn't what the boy should have done. It's that she should never have put the boy in that situation. That's where the problem is. You've got an adult in a position of authority who's taking advantage of a young boy, plain and simple. I honestly think that it would be different if the boy were 18, 17, and maybe even 16, as far as the possible damage that she might have inflicted on the boy. But 14 is way wrong. Even at 18, she should lose her teaching certificate, but there shouldn't be criminal charges. But for having sex with a 14 year old boy, yes.
Mark
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