ESFJ People of this type tend to be: active, friendly, and energetic; outgoing, affectionate, and talkative; concerned about others and careful to be polite and cooperative; realistic, literal, and conscientious; highly sensitive and easily hurt; organized, responsible, and conventional. The most important thing to ESFJs is their relationships and helping people in real, and practical ways.
How to Spot ESFJs: friendly, talkative, and concerned about others, even strangers
expressive voices, faces, and eyes
speak with great conviction, using plenty of personal, value words
decisive, enthusiastic, energetic
Tips for Communicating with ESFJs: Respect their feelings! Look them in the eye and respond to what they say
Mention points of agreement first
Be clear and specific - lay out the steps whenever possible
(From PersonalityType.com)