She disproved that assertion with her own position. She believes violence should be met by passive surrender.
"A bully is beating me up, Mom -- what should I do?" "Just let him keep beating you up, dear -- fighting back would be violence, and violence only begets more violence!"
Ship her out on the next plane.
Dishonorable discharge for her. Period.
I agree but I want my tax money spent on her training back. Ship her back, put a lien against any assets in the future against the cost of her training and education provided by the military.