Posted on 08/24/2005 8:09:41 AM PDT by billorites
...Keep it up. She likes it. "Mean" is one of those female words that have a different meaning than the male version. ;)
She was the first grade teacher for my cousin's kids. He introduced us. It was pure luck - like winning the lottery.
You should say "Many" or "in my experience, a lot of" women, instead of just "women". I'm not interested in a bad boy. I'm interested in real men, who are considerate without being doormats, fun rather than dangerous. I know a lot more girls who want that than those who want bad boys.
All right, so I do know a lot who want bad boys. Their IQ is usually the same as their bra size.
LOL!
You got it! A+! With the additional fine point that women really want men who won't take any crap from them either, and who will pass that test when put to it. "Nice guys" crumble when a woman gives them crap, and usually either try to beg or buy their way back into the woman's affections - which just annoys her further. Judging by some of the posts on FR, there are men who have been married for decades who are still begging and buying domestic tranquility. Their wives must be ready to throw them down a well by now. ;)
Laz is not at all a cad. But he did used to have this odd fascination with alpacas.....
Wow, I got an A+! - and I agree with your additional observation. I think that's accurate.
When I lived in Albuquerque, I had a heck of a time finding women to date. Most already had a kid or were divorced--which for me were immediate red flags. Not always of course, but at the time I just was not looking for an "instant family, just add Betis."
Now it is not so hard to avoid those red flags, but trying to avoid the RED flag (as in Marxist/Maoist variety) is close to impossible.
I think I need to move to Texas.
Ping.
Not in one case did I ever let on that I knew they were doing it. I simply cataloged the fact and kept it in mind.
You've described some of the attributes of a bad boy.
Bad boys are not wife-beater-tshirt wearing, abusive alcoholic jerks. Those are just jerks.
I'm talking about the difference between the confident and the doormats. These bad boys are the ones who can take you or leave you, but would kinda prefer to take you, should that work out. They are the ones who are not pushovers. They are their own men. They already know who they are. There are as many bad boys in suits as there are in motorcycle leathers. While they are not dangerous, there are hints they may have had dangerous pasts.
Bingo. You just nailed what a bad boy is.
Funny...was just on this thread. Great minds think alike.
As I said, right now I've got a good woman, but she's a hopeless liberal.
I gave up on looking for a right-wing chick as there simply aren't any around here that aren't either married, frigid, old, bible-thumpers (I don't mean just Christian-Christian is a preferred trait obviously, I'm talking the in-your-face-bible-thumping type that won't even let you have a beer without a lecture), or stuck up. Most were attractive in a physical sense though! And I know that interesting, attractive conservative women exist (just look on FR-plenty here!) but none in Akron, O-hi-O!
The woman I'm dating now is a wonderful person despite being a left-wing moonbat...sigh...I tried converting her, but it's proven hopeless...
Ever read about David DeAngelo's "Cocky + Funny" method??
If you can make her feel, you can have her.
The dictionary defines commitment it as an obligation that restricts freedom of action....
That sums it....
..a woman looks for someone who will stay the course....
..whether bad boy, good guy, nice, whatever.
#116..You're right...I left out humor, and that's majorly important!
I've accidently dated a few left-wing moonbats. They made for more "reach for the Tums" dinners than I care for.
I know who they are, and I think I know something about who you are, from ready your posts. You're too vulnerable to be really 'bad'.
Honestly, my own assessment is that you are too old to use the term "bad boy". "Bad boy" appeals to the teenager in me that liked the long haired guys who played in high school bands and while being pretty nice guys, owned a big water bong and made my parents nervous because of how they dressed and the volume of the music coming from the car stereo when we pulled out of the driveway (parents obviously didn't know about the bong).
You're 40 now. There's got to be something else you're supposed to grow into, some better label for a grown up than 'bad boy'. Heck most of the long haired 'bad boys' I dated have other personalities now, one is a high school teacher, others are professionals of some type, some of the few who couldn't grow up are dead.
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