Posted on 01/14/2005 4:10:57 PM PST by Lindykim
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A Social experiment that could cause chaos Albert Mohler's article is a startling read, entering the thoughts shared by several lesbians dealing with the issue of raising sons. (Lesbians Raising Sons; got a problem with that? 12/30/04)
First is a woman named Jess Wells, author of Lesbians Raising Sons, who insisted that she did all she could to avoid giving birth to a son. Mohler shares some of her story:
As an ardent opponent of "male privilege, patriarchy, and male culture," Wells did not want anything to do with raising a boy. Eventually, she was reconciled to the fact that her child was a boy and decided this could be a positive experience. "My son... cannot be my oppressor because he is my child... [b]oth of us, respecting each other's sovereignty, can rejoice in our foreignness and celebrate our diversity."
Wells' book exposes a piece of the social revolution that is taking place today in our culture, attempting to re-define family and parenting. The book continues with several other mothers who share a practice of parenting that excludes males from the parenting process. Wells casts a utopian image of lesbian mothers raising their sons in both the arts as well as sports; sewing, dress-up and shooting hoops. "We teach boys not to oppress women, to feel, and to live free of gender restrictions and homophobia," Wells shares.
Peggy F. Drexler, a research psychologist and Advisory Board member of the San Francisco Day School is introduced by Mohler, quoted as saying, "Boys have an innate ability to become men, a capacity that good parenting by males or females can nurture." According to this article Ms. Drexler asserts, as per her research that boys "do not need single male role model in-house to teach them how to hit a ball or become men."
A woman in Wells' Lesbians Raising Sons, Sara Asch, portrays a different story shared by Mohler:
In the book's first chapter Sara Asch writes of her son, "who is apparently a girl and who, if he were old enough to read this, would be furious at me for using this male pronoun." She goes on to explain that the boy wears 11 braids decorated with 88 beads. Asch writes, "He has watched the college girls who student-teach, ...the female heroines of the silver screen. He knows how to toss his head just so, to tuck a lock behind his ear...and he covets the opportunity." This child does not seem to have "defaulted" into masculinity or male traits.
Our Spotlights contributor, Nancy Brown commented that these mothers have heard their own heart cries to bear and raise children, which in its original creation, is a beautiful thing. "These women fail to finish the process of growth and peace that comes with the experience of sacrificing all of ones self to insure what is best for that boy or girl," Brown says.
Brown continues, "Without that model, how can these boys ever know the fulfillment of their male heart cries? How can they truly know the expression of God created in their masculinity?"
Reading this, I wonder how a boy would truly be able to embrace the male identity. Wells says, "free of gender restrictions," and yet she implies her own restriction, raising a boy in a feminist environment, continually emasculating his own gender.
Man and Woman, He created them. God created the man and woman in His image, to personify his own character through their masculinity and femininity; partnered together to complement and more fully represent the Creator. He made them both in His image to bear witness to who He is. For children to fully embrace their identity, they need have both male and female examples in their home. It is important for boys to have a male example to identify with and distinguish from the female. The female example in the home also strengthens and fortifies their perspective of themselves as men. For the girls, it is equally important that both parents play a significant role, displaying the diversity of male and female, but especially that the female example is present. "To me it is part of understanding diversity in its purest form - the blending of both parts of God's Image into one - the union of man and wife," Nancy says.
Like me, any reader here might read this and default into doubt from their own experience - a home with dysfunction; maybe even with both parents present. In our pain, we might discredit this idyllic picture as unrealistic.
While we - people on this planet - have strayed from God's original design, why in our dysfunction do we feel we have the clarity and authority to re-invent relationship and home?
Why should the answer be to divert even more from the original plan, with children raised by two mommies or two daddies? It is a social experiment on our most vulnerable and treasured gifts.
The answer should be to provide young boys and girls with healthy models of masculinity and femininity, and the complimentary relationship that they can have. Redefining marriage, parenting, community, and sexuality brings chaos and confusion. We need a social revolution to restore what is good.
Mohler ends stating that the "prophets of political correctness" now order our definition of diversity to be accepting of "diverse forms of family," while those who uphold the original design of a union between a man and woman are closed-minded extremists. "Even in the face of such intimidation, a quick look at Lesbians Raising Sons should be sufficient to help the vast majority of Americans know who the real extremists are."
We can educate our community to appreciate men and women's ideas, expressions, relationships, and presence. It is a good thing to raise our children where men truly embrace Godly masculinity - bringing forth focus, structure and authority; and where women embrace the glory of what God intended them to bring through beauty, community, and strength.
We should passionately seek freedom and redemption for the life of bondage and wounded-ness that we have experienced. We should not let that bondage continue to wreck any semblance of what God designed for us originally. It is His image that is marred if we continue to justify gender hatred.
Caryn Davis is the Publications Editor for Exodus. She is involved with the Spotlights & Media Synopsis Team, as well as editing the Exodus Impact. Caryn and Scott, the Director of Exodus Youth, have been involved with Exodus for over a year as staff members.
About Exodus International Founded in 1976, Exodus International is a nonprofit, interdenominational Christian organization promoting the message of "Freedom from homosexuality through the power of Jesus Christ." We include over 125 local member ministries throughout the USA and Canada. Website: http://www.exodus.to
About Exodus Youth Exodus Youth exists to help young people who are questioning their sexual identity and struggling with same-sex attraction find life and healing in Christ. We are a group of ministry leaders, overcomers, friends & family who are passionate about bringing the love of Christ to youth affected by homosexuality. We're working together to encourage, strengthen, unify and equip Christians to minister the transforming power of the Lord Jesus Christ to youth struggling with their sexuality. Website: http://www.exodusyouth.net
Caryn Davis is the Publications Editor for Exodus. She is involved with the Spotlights & Media Synopsis Team, as well as editing the Exodus Impact. Caryn and Scott, the Director of Exodus Youth, have been involved with Exodus for over a year as staff members.
moderator@christian-underground.com http://www.christian-underground.com/archive/read.php?sid=330 Posted to the CU: 2005-01-14 02:41:20 CST
Heartbreaking ping
As a general rule I hav always thought that known lunatics should not decide to have kids.
"My son... cannot be my oppressor because he is my child... [b]oth of us, respecting each other's sovereignty, can rejoice in our foreignness and celebrate our diversity"
gag. "respecting" your child's "sovereignty" is a surefire way to raise a spoiled brat. Even if this kid was being raised by a mom and dad, with a parental attitude like that, he'll still have problems.
Sad story, selfish people make me sick.
How long can the insanity continue to grow until madness overtakes us all?
This sounds very much like child abuse to me. Where is Child Protective Services when you need it?
I hope someone takes the necessary steps to have this young boy removed from this mental institution.
sadly this is really true. it's not that different from my own experience. "Mom" and I no longer communicate and its taken me years to recover from the so-called socializing.
I don't know about chaos, but little boys raised to detest their gender often flip out, hate women and become serial killers.
Terminally sick bitches are usually put down in the animal world.
These women are abusing their sons.
When one of these damaged young "men" murders another freak over some genetic urge that could not be "mothered" out of him by some lesbo, I can see he upbringing used as his excuse just like child abuse. "You have to free him becuase he killed because of his warped upbringing."
If there was ever a Reason to control reproduction by way of sterilization, THIS IS IT !
Seeking out the freak shows on the fringes of society is not my example of "madness running rampant throughout America".
I agree. Expect some of these girly-boys to make themselves orphans.
I agree. Expect some of these girly-boys to make themselves orphans.
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