Good questions. Based on my only other post to this forum I feared another set of angry rants. I will think about what you said.
Liberals like to portray anyone who opposes "gay marriage" as a gay-bashing thug, but the reality is that I couldn't care less what people do in private but these people are seeking government power to do things which I, and many Americans, oppose.
One thing I think I should make clear, at least regarding my own opinions, is that I do not see homosexuality as being an absolute 100% disqualifying factor for adoption, but I do see it as being a major negative. They way I would put it, a child who does not have a married mother and father will be at a substantial disadvantage compared to one who does. Sometimes a child may be forced to endure such disadvantages due to factors beyond anyone's control, but I see no reason for anyone to deliberately impose them upon a child.
There are times when I think a gay adoption may be the best thing for a child. If a child's parents are killed and the only relative who is willing and able to take the child is an uncle who happens to be living with a gay partner, I would think that being adopted by that uncle may be preferable to being adopted by strangers. Even if the child would no longer be able to meet Mom and Dad, the child would still know who they were, and who the other relatives were.
Generally, however, I would say that except when kinship demands otherwise, married couples should get 'first dibs' on adoptive children. Unfortunately, FWIU, too many adoption agencies seek to promote "diversity" by giving away babies to everything but traditional married couples.